Kamala's mother and dearest friend for most of her life was a loving, wonderful mom. She was, on the one hand, extremely open-minded and brave, and had no qualms about taking her impressionable daughter to see an exotic Indian Swami lecture or even welcoming him as their guest of honor into their homes. On the other hand, she was fiercely protective of her lovely child.
During their stays at the Mt. Washington headquarters, Dr. Buchanan would not take even the briefest trips to Santa Barbara without appointing a surrogate mother to fill her own shoes, going so far as insisting that her appointed chaperone had a bed to use at night in Kamala's room while she was away. An avid photographer, we have Dr. Buchanan to thank for many captivating photos of Kamala from her childhood through young adulthood. We'll be adding many of these to the site in the coming months.
This photo was taken in their newly built home, into which they settled shortly after meeting Swami Yogananda and entertaining him at their cottage in Manhattan Beach.
At cabin in Colorado. Today the most perfect day. Breeze wonderful. Need no for sweater - sun - beauty everywhere. Mother left her loved form 34 yrs. ago. I love her so deeply and love the cottage and all here she shared and gave me - through God and Gurus.
I was sitting here working at my typing when I inhaled the sweet fragrance that was always part of my Mother. She stayed quite a while. I was so happy to feel her near. How sweet - how fragrant. How this was always just Mother - no one else.(only a few times has she come.)
Babaji's Blessing came the day after this following truth became REALIZED in me. I have known - but it has now become REALIZED - that as long as we want anything from another person that they do not CHOOSE to give, or cannot give - their nature being what it is, in habits, tendencies, idea, etc., - it will bring either unhappiness to our self, or conflict with that one. People give what they desire to give - not necessarily what is right, or obviously a duty, or that is kind, or considerate - or loyal, or anything that consensus would agree is the only 'right' thing. When people do give all that we desire from them, it is their giving. (God's blessing to us) Not because we want. (or need it or that they therefore should do so)To illustrateWe have a 'right' to expect cooperation, honesty, loyalty and integrity in a business partnership. If we do not find it in someone, we must cease expecting, since that one gives just what he can, or choose, or is able in his development. (he may change someday; we cannot force it or hurry it) It is a concept taught in the Gita (desirelessness) and now I REALIZE it, it gives new meaning to the words 'Tolerance' and 'Do not Criticize Others' and - as the Gita said 'Cessation of Desire (any kind) bring peace in it's place.' And 'I accept' Mother's amusing phrase 'Blessed are they who expect nothing, for they shall be satisfied!'